Have you experienced the death of someone that was important to you?
Are you finding it difficult to adjust to the loss of your loved one in your life?
Whatever it may be, grief can shake your beliefs, personality and even your sense of reality.
Bereavement is the time period that you may spend adjusting to your loss and it is important to remember that there is no time limit or right or wrong way to cope. Grieving and bereavement is a very individual experience and each individual will cope with it differently.
During this process, you may feel strong emotions which could grow, fade and shift through the various stages of grief. it is important to find ways in which you can mourn your loss and help you to move on.
The grief stages are normally identified as below. There is no order and you may find yourself moving up and down the different stages as well as revisiting the stages.
Acceptance – Accepting your loss is an important part of the bereavement process. Without this you may find it hard to grieve and mourn the loss of your loved one.
Grief – Grief is the pain you feel when you have lost someone you care about deeply. Some people will cry and others might get angry and others might withdraw. As painful as it is, it is important to let yourself grieve, as denying yourself will only prolong the pain.
Adjustment – Once you accept your loss and understand your emotions, you may find yourself adjusting to life. The realisation that life still has to go on will sink in and although this will be incredibly hard at first, eventually with time, this feeling will ease and you will start to adjust.
Moving on – Eventually you will get to a stage in your life where you will learn to move on. You will always remember your loved one and will always keep them close, however with time, you will learn to channel your emotions and cope through everyday life.
Be U Counselling Service, based in Poole, Bournemouth and Dorset can not bring your loved one back but it can help you to learn to accept that they have gone and can help you to move on whilst cherishing the memories of your loved one. That’s not to say that you won’t have times where you miss them or you will not hurt, as this is inevitable but coming to counselling can help give you coping strategies and ways to manage your grief better so you can function in everyday life.