Coping with the grief and loss of someone or something you love can be one of life’s biggest challenges. Often the pain and questions can feel overwhelming. During this time you may experience various emotions such as shock, anger, guilt or sadness. The pain of grief not only affects your mental health but can also affect your physical health making it difficult to sleep, eat or even think straight.
When we think of loss we think of the death of a loved one, however, grief and loss can also be associated with:
- Divorce or relationship break-up
- Loss of health
- Losing a job
- Loss of financial stability
- A miscarriage
- Death of a pet
- Loss of a friendship
- Loss of safety after a trauma
- Selling a family house
In life even subtle changes can trigger a sense of grief and loss, for example moving away from home, graduating from university or changing jobs.
The stages of grief
In 1969 psychiatrist Elisabeth Kubler-Ross introduced the five stages of grief. These stages of grief were based on her studies of her feelings of patients facing terminal illness. The five stages of grief are:
- Denial – “This can’t be happening to me”
- Anger – “Why is this happening? Who is to blame?”
- Bargaining – “Make this not happen, and in return, I will not…”
- Depression – “I’m too sad to do anything”
- Acceptance – “I’m at peace with what happened”
Within the five stages, we can move up and down at any order and there is no time on how long grief should last for an individual.
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How I can help
Kruti St Helen cannot bring your loved one back but can help you to learn to accept that they have gone and can help you to hold on to the memories of your loved one. Although you may encounter difficult times ahead, coming to counselling can help by giving you coping strategies and ways to manage your grief better so you can function in everyday life.
I offer a free 30 minute, no obligation session where you can come and meet me, ask me questions or use it as a short counselling session to get a feel for what to commit to. This session will give you the opportunity to discover if you feel comfortable working with me and are able to build a therapeutic relationship with me which is important for counselling to take place. If after the 30 minutes, you are happy and would like to continue the counselling sessions, I will book you in for an assessment session where we will set out a therapeutic contract.