Do you feel you have lost yourself? Do you feel you have changed as a person and need to reconnect with yourself? Have you had a life-changing event that has made you question who you are?
Identity is the way we define ourselves and the role we play in our society, family and friends. Your identity includes your hobbies, interest and hopes for the future and this can change as our situations and circumstances change. The change can then make us challenge our beliefs.
A person with a sense of identity will act differently in different situations and with different people. For example, the way you act around your friends will be different to how you act around your partner, but they will still feel like the same person underneath.
A person without a sense of identity can feel disconnected from themselves and may feel like a different person from day to day. Not having an identity means that your behaviours will change with the circumstances and situations. For example, if you are in a relationship you might find you change your likes and dislikes according to whomever you’re in the relationship with at the time. In other words, if you don’t have an identity you will mould to your environment rather than have your environment mould to you.
Not being sure of your identity can mean that you end up living a life that comes your way rather than living a life you want. It can result in living a life how you think other people may want you to live it, which in turn could end up leaving you unhappy and feeling unfulfilled.
The truth is that this is your life. It should be lived how you want to live it and you should be doing things that you want to be doing. Finding yourself, your likes, and your dislikes are so important to maintain your overall happiness and fulfilment.
How I Can Help You
Be U Counselling Service based in Poole, Dorset can provide you with a safe, non-judgemental space where you can explore different areas of your life, your likes, and dislikes so you can start to develop a sense of your identity. Together we can uncover your inner self so that you can directly conform to what you represent. We can look at examples from your life and look at your current self and try to work out where you want to be. By using various handouts and goal setting skills we could aim at achieving a new you that you are comfortable with.
I offer a 30 minute, no obligation session, where you can come and meet me, ask me questions or use it as a short counselling session to get a feel for what counselling is like and whether it is something that you want to commit to. This session will also give you an opportunity to discover if you feel comfortable working with me and are able to build a therapeutic relationship with me, which is very important for counselling to take place. If after the 30 minutes, you are happy and would like to commit to the counselling sessions, I will book you in for an assessment session where we will set out a therapeutic contract.