Feeling suicidal is a common occurrence and can happen to any one of us. Often the people closest to you may not even realise that you are struggling and you may be feeling alone and isolated, which in turn may make you feel like no one cares, but it is so important to remember that the actions of your decision will not only just affect you but will affect all of your family members and friends, who do care but may not be aware how low you are feeling or may not know how to help you.
I want to share with you some statistics from the year 2015.
In 2015 there were 6639 suicides in the UK and the Republic of Ireland that were known.
The highest rate of suicides were amongst men aged between 40 and 44.
Over the years, female suicide rates have also increased and are at the highest they have been in decades.
Now ask yourself, do you want to become another statistic? Do you want to become another number? Life is hard and can be difficult but it can also be incredibly rewarding and remember whatever you’re feeling is only temporary; life will get better, even if you cannot see it right now. Give yourself time and space to heal your emotional wounds. Life is hard sometimes and it can be really difficult but think about the impact that it will have on your family and friends and go and get the help you require, work on the emotional pain that you are feeling inside and make life a fulfilling one. It won’t be an easy journey but it can be a rewarding one, with hard work.
When you’re feeling suicidal there are certain things that can help you when you feel all hope is lost.
1. Surround yourself with people
If you’re feeling suicidal it is important to surround yourself with good people whether they are family, friends, work colleagues, professionals or even people you don’t know. The most dangerous person you can be around at the moment is yourself, therefore be surrounding yourself with people you are decreasing your chances of acting out on your thoughts. Also by talking to people you may even come to realise that you are not alone. There are people wanting to help.
Samaritans 116 123, SANEline 0300 304 7000 PAPYRUS HOPElineUK for young people considering suicide 0800 068 41 41, NHS 111, GP
2. Use the Resources around you, such as the Samaritans.
There are many charities and resources around nowadays that can help you, such as The Samaritans. The Samaritans is a safe place that you can call 24 hours a day, 7 days a week for you to talk to somebody whenever you feeling low and are finding it hard to cope with your emotions. They are trained to help you and offer a listening ear.
3. Online Forums
There are plenty of online forums available now where you can post anonymously and explain your situation and talk about how you are feeling. This will give you an opportunity to speak to somebody who might be going through something similar and you may be able to draw support from each other and make new friends.
4. Avoid drugs and alcohol
If you’re feeling low already, elicit substances can often make your thoughts even more intense making you feel even more lower. Therefore it is worth avoiding drugs and alcohol if you are feeling suicidal or are have suicidal ideation.
5. Remind yourself what you have to live for
Make a list of all the things in your life currently that make you want to stay in this world. They could be as little as you wanting to remember the smell of your favourite flower, to you wanting to bake a cake, to your children’s names or your pet’s names. Keep these reasons with you as they will be the reasons that will stop you from acting out on your thoughts.
6. Create a Hope Box
When you’re feeling suicidal, it can be hard to find hope but there are always reasons to stay alive. By preparing a hope box in advance, it is something you can turn to when you are feeling low. In your hope box you can put things in there that you know will distract or soothe you when you are in crisis. It is a good idea to include things that appeal to your senses such as a CD, chocolates, stress ball, smelly oils etc.
7. Start Therapy
Start counselling as it’s a great way to talk through issues that may be troubling you. Counsellors are well equipped to help with suicidal ideations and can listen to what you want to talk about. If you are feeling suicidal they will help you to determine what is causing you to feel down and work with you to try and come up with coping mechanisms and skills that can help you.
It is important to remember that with all the implementations in place, you can strive for a better life. It won’t be perfect all the time and you will have up and downs but you can look to the future and start to plan for a much happier fulfilling life for yourself.