How To Gain Coping Mechanisms For Self-Harm

What is Self Harm? Self-harm is a deliberate act of causing harm to your self. This can be anything from:  Cutting Biting Hair Pulling Hitting Swallowing dangerous items Self-neglect Putting yourself in dangerous situations Why do people self-harm? People can self-harm for many reasons. Some of the reasons why they may self-harm are below: 1. To release tension and distress Some people find that physically harming themselves brings an instant sense of calm and relief from the emotions that they are feeling at that moment in time. By harming themselves this can release the tension and distress that they are feeling. 2. To feel in control When people feel that in their lives they have little control or even no…

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The Pursuit of Happiness

In this blog post, I want to share with you my own experience but before I do I want to mention that I would love to hear some of my reader’s experiences also, so if you have an experience that you would like to share with me then please email them at ksthelen@beucounsellingservice.com So as most of you know I went to St Lucia to attend a family member’s funeral. I didn’t have the chance to meet the family member in person but did have contact with them via phone and email. I felt silly being at a funeral for someone I didn’t really know but I went there to support my husband. As awkward as the day was for…

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Remain Productive Over The Festive Period

Christmas music has been playing since the beginning of November and schools are preparing for nativity plays and shops have started selling Christmas items already. The holiday season is well on its way, and your mind gets filled with mince pies, presents and Christmas parties, so how do you stay productive during this holiday season? There are a few strategies that you could put into place that could help you stay productive during this festive time. 1. A to-do list Try and keep a list of all the things you need to do. This can help you to cut down a task rather than making it seem overwhelming and unbearable and as you complete each task, there will come a…

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Long Distance Relationships – How To Make Them Work

There was a time when long distant relationships always carried a stigma for not working. However, now in a modern society where technology has brought us closer together, long distant relationships have the same if not a better chance of survival as any other relationship form. Being a counsellor/psychotherapist and having been in a long distant relationship, I have first-hand experience of the emotional roller coaster a long distance relationship can put on you. However unbeknown to many people it can also have many benefits. For example, when finally seeing your lover, the anticipation can be so intense that the passion can be extremely fiery. Would I prefer a long distance relationship now? In my mid-thirties with kids, my answer…

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People Are Hooking Up With Strangers At Speed Awareness Courses by Metro

I had a call from the Metro newspaper asking me to comment on why I thought people were attending these speed awareness courses and ending up in relationships. I was more than happy to contribute to the article Adam was writing and am now sharing the link with you for you to read. http://metro.co.uk/2017/08/21/people-are-hooking-up-with-strangers-at-speed-awareness-courses-6868572/  

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The Benefits of Counselling

Counselling is a form of talking therapy which is conducted in a safe, confidential environment where the counsellor will encourage the individual to talk about their problems and will work with them to uncover the root of their issues. The counsellor will also help the individual to identify how they may view and think about themselves and the world. Although counselling is widely used, most people I speak to think counselling is a waste of time in dealing with issues and would often write counselling off thinking it isn’t going to help solve the problem. This is due to our fast-paced modern society where we constantly search for a quick fix and where we hate putting in the work. However,…

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Manage Your Depression

Nearly everyone in this world goes through times when they feel low but when these feelings become long lasting and start to interfere with everyday life, it becomes important for people to seek help. A person suffering from depression can feel sad, anxious, hopeless, guilty and even ashamed. Depression can hit anyone at any age, whether you’re from a poor background to whether you’re from a rich background. The good news is that there are multiple humanistic ways in which one can treat depression. Self Help Groups This is a place where people going through similar experiences can come together and support each other. It can make the person feel apart of a group rather than feeling alone and is a valuable…

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