Narcissistic Victim Disorder – What is it?

To understand Narcissistic Victim Disorder, you have to first understand what Narcissistic Personality Disorder is. Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) This is a personality disorder with a long-term pattern of abnormal behaviour characterised by exaggerated feelings of self-importance, an excessive need for admiration, and a lack of empathy. Those affected by this often spend a lot of their time thinking about achieving power or success, or spend a lot of time on their appearance. The behaviour typically begins around early adulthood, and occurs across a variety of social situations and they often take advantage of the people around them. The person with NPD can usually display arrogance and a distorted sense of superiority, and they may seek to establish abusive power…

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Mesothelioma Diagnoses: Understanding Grief and Acceptance

Passing away unexpectedly in a deep sleep is how most people envision their transition into the afterlife. No one wants a prolonged battle with a disease as they age. However, thousands of people deal with a cancer-linked diagnosis every year across the globe. Mesothelioma, in particular, is a difficult diagnosis for everyone involved. The emotional toll is significant for the patient and loved ones. Grief is an emotion that must be explored as people work through their emotions surrounding a serious diagnosis. Learn more about coping so that the journey isn’t too strenuous. Understanding the Diagnosis Mesothelioma is an ailment that impacts the lung lining. Cancerous tumors develop in the lining, which leads to breathing difficulties over time. This disease…

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Inspire Wellbeing This Year

I thought about writing this blog at the end of last year and then at the beginning of the year and at both times it didn’t sit right with me. Why you might ask? Well because during the festive period we are all so excited that we normally make great plans and promises to ourselves which we never really keep more than two weeks not the year. If we’re lucky and really really really committed to losing weight, being more organised, getting in more exercise , being in touch with family or whatever we have promised ourselves it may last till the end of the month or even two. So now I’m writing this blog to help you achieve your…

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Are you struggling to find love?

  Finding a meaningful relationship is usually on the top of most people’s list. Despite many people’s efforts into trying to find their true love and the millions of services available to help them, there are millions of people that are still struggling to find their true love. In fact in the UK 51% of people are single. It could be that the following roadblocks may be standing in your way to finding your love. It is worth looking at these roadblocks and worth working on you and getting yourself back out there. 1 Practical VS Superficial When looking for your love it is important to focus on shared goals, such as a desire to have a family or what…

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How To Manage Suicidal Feelings

Feeling suicidal is a common occurrence and can happen to any one of us. Often the people closest to you may not even realise that you are struggling and you may be feeling alone and isolated, which in turn may make you feel like no one cares, but it is so important to remember that the actions of your decision will not only just affect you but will affect all of your family members and friends, who do care but may not be aware how low you are feeling or may not know how to help you. I want to share with you some statistics from the year 2015. In 2015 there were 6639 suicides in the UK and the…

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How to Move On From Betrayal

What is Betrayal? When a betrayal can take place in a relationship it can be very upsetting and it can be filled with great emotional intensity. Feelings of guilt, sadness, anger and misplace of trust can be just some of the emotions that may be involved. However bad and intense the emotions may be, it is possible to overcome the betrayal if both individuals want to overcome it and move forward, however, this is not an easy task and nor will it be to everyone’s liking. It will be a hard, painful task for both of you but if both of you are willing to commit to repairing the damage, rebuilding the trust and reconnecting with each other then it…

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How To Gain Coping Mechanisms For Self-Harm

What is Self Harm? Self-harm is a deliberate act of causing harm to your self. This can be anything from:  Cutting Biting Hair Pulling Hitting Swallowing dangerous items Self-neglect Putting yourself in dangerous situations Why do people self-harm? People can self-harm for many reasons. Some of the reasons why they may self-harm are below: 1. To release tension and distress Some people find that physically harming themselves brings an instant sense of calm and relief from the emotions that they are feeling at that moment in time. By harming themselves this can release the tension and distress that they are feeling. 2. To feel in control When people feel that in their lives they have little control or even no…

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How To Be Confident

“Confidence is something you create within yourself by believing in who you are” What is confidence? Confidence is knowing what you are good at, the value you provide and the presence of yourself that you bring to any conversation, meeting or groups that you are involved with. Confidence is important because without it people are unable to achieve the level of happiness and success they desire. So what is low confidence? Low confidence is when you see yourself in a negative self-critical way. It is when you regard yourself as being inadequate, unacceptable, unworthy and unlovable. These thoughts can go on to affect your behaviour and life choices. So what can you do to build your confidence? It is true…

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Help Your Child Develop A Growth Mindset

So what is Growth Mindset and why are schools giving it so much importance right now? And why should you, as parents, carers or mentors give it importance? Over 30 years ago Carol Dweck and her colleagues became interested in students’ attitudes to failure. They found that some student rebounded to failure while others were completely devastated by the setbacks. After carrying out several studies of thousands of children, Dr Dweck introduced the terms fixed mindset and growth mindset to describe the beliefs that people have about learning and intelligence. Fixed Term = This is when you believe that you unable to change your intelligence and abilities. For example, “I’m not a maths person” indicates a lack of change in…

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The Pursuit of Happiness

In this blog post, I want to share with you my own experience but before I do I want to mention that I would love to hear some of my reader’s experiences also, so if you have an experience that you would like to share with me then please email them at ksthelen@beucounsellingservice.com So as most of you know I went to St Lucia to attend a family member’s funeral. I didn’t have the chance to meet the family member in person but did have contact with them via phone and email. I felt silly being at a funeral for someone I didn’t really know but I went there to support my husband. As awkward as the day was for…

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