How to Move on from a betrayal

When a betrayal can take place in a relationship it can be very upsetting and it can be filled with great emotional intensity. Feelings of guilt, sadness, anger and misplace of trust can be just some of the emotions that may be involved. However bad and intense the emotions may be, it is possible to overcome the betrayal if both individuals want to overcome it and move forward, however this is not an easy task and nor will it be to everyone’s liking. It will be a hard, painful task for both of you but if both of you are willing to commit to repairing the damage, rebuilding the trust and reconnecting with each other then it can be done.…

Continue Reading →

Help your child develop a growth mind set

So what is Growth Mind Set and why are schools giving it so much importance right now? And why should you, as parents, carers or mentors give it importance? Over 30 years ago Carol Dweck and her colleagues became interested in students’ attitudes to failure. They found that some student rebounded to failure while others were completely devastated by the setbacks. After carrying out several studies of thousands of children, Dr Dweck introduced the terms fixed mindset and growth mindset to describe the beliefs that people have about learning and intelligence. Fixed Term = This is when you believe that you unable to change your intelligence and abilities. For example, “I’m not a maths person” indicates a lack of change…

Continue Reading →

Happiness

In this blog I want to share with you my own experience but before I do I want to mention that I would love to hear some of my reader’s experiences also, so if you have an experience that you would like to share with me then please email them at ksthelen@beucounsellingservice.com So as most of you know I went to St Lucia to attend a family member’s funeral. I didn’t have the chance to meet the family member in person but did have contact with them via phone and email. I felt silly being at a funeral for someone I didn’t really know but I went there to support my husband. As awkward as the day was for me…

Continue Reading →

New’s Year’s Resolutions for Mental Health

New Year has arrived upon us and we are so good at making New Year resolutions particularly when it comes to our physical health but have you ever considered making resolutions for your mental health? When thinking about making a New Year’s resolution, it is important to pick something manageable. Making small positive changes can benefit your confidence as they are easier to keep up with and enable you to stay focus on making the changes you want rather than giving up. Here are a few resolutions that you might want to consider for the New Year. Try Meditating Meditation can give your mind some time out and help bring calm into your busy life. Try to schedule in at…

Continue Reading →

Remain productive over the festive period

Christmas music has been playing since the beginning of November and schools are preparing for nativity plays and shops have started selling Christmas items already. The holiday season is well on its way, and your mind gets filled with mince pies, presents and Christmas parties, so how do you stay productive during this holiday season? There are a few strategies that you could put into place that could help you stay productive during this festive time. 1. A to do list Try and keep a list of all the things you need to do. This can help you to cut down a task rather than making it seem overwhelming and unbearable and as you complete each task, there will come…

Continue Reading →

Loneliness

Human Beings are social creatures and there is more and more evidence out there that suggests that loneliness not only affects your mental health but also your physical health. Although loneliness is experienced by many of us, it is often overlooked because as a society we pride ourselves on self reliance and being lonely carries a stigma so people do not like to admit that they are feeling lonely. However coping with loneliness in itself can cause mental health problems, leaving a negative impact on your mental state. As previously mentioned human beings are social creatures and there is more and more evidence out there that suggests a correlation between loneliness and bad mental and physical health. Mentally, without interaction…

Continue Reading →

Do Friends/Family and Money Mix?

Friendships can be strong and secure, you trust each other with secrets, you joke around with each other and you even rely on them for emotional support but could your friendship stand its strength if money was involved. There are many psychological studies and articles from financial institutes that suggest that giving money to friends and family is a big no no and they go as far as to say that involving money in a relationship can put those very relationships at risk. Emotions? When lending money to friends and family, it is easy for emotions to get in the way which can then lead you into being taken advantage of. For example, you have a friend who is struggling…

Continue Reading →

Reduce your risk of Dementia

Having done the Dementia Awareness talk at Poole Library last month, I thought it was only right to focus this month’s blog on Dementia. Dementia is a set of symptoms that accompany a number of diseases that affects the brain. It is a progressive disorder affecting how your brain works and in particular your ability to remember, think and reason. There are many types of Dementia which can impact on your mood and behavioural changes. The different types of Dementia are; Alzheimer’s Disease This is where an abnormal protein surrounds the brain cells causing a loss of concentration between nerve cells and eventually the death of the nerve cells. The people suffering from Alzheimer’s normally have a shortage of the…

Continue Reading →

The Benefits of Counselling

Counselling is a form of talking therapy which is conducted in a safe, confidential environment where the counsellor will encourage the individual to talk about their problems and will work with them to uncover the root of their issues. The counsellor will also help the individual to identify how they may view and think about themselves and the world. Although counselling is widely used, most people I speak to think counselling is a waste of time in dealing with issues and would often write counselling off thinking it isn’t going to help solve the problem. This is due to our fast paced modern society where we constantly search for a quick fix and where we hate putting in the work.…

Continue Reading →